Friday, November 10, 2006

slow dance

a friend sent me this.....

Have you ever watched kids

On a merry-go-round?

Or listened to the rain

Slapping on the ground?

Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight?

Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?

You better slow down.

Don't dance so fast.

Time is short.

The music won't last.

Do you run through each day

On the fly?

When you ask

How are you?

Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done!

Do you lie in your bed

With the next hundred chores

Running through your head?

You'd better slow down

Don't dance so fast.

Time is short.

The music won't last.

Ever told your child,

We'll do it tomorrow?

And in your haste,

Not see his sorrow?

Ever lost touch,

Let a good friendship die

Cause you never had time

To call and say,"Hi"

You'd better slow down. D

on't dance so fast.

Time is short.

The music won't last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere

You miss half the fun of getting there.

When you worry and hurry through your day,

It is like an unopened gift....

Thrown away.

Life is not a race.

Do take it slower

Hear the music

Before the song is over.

this poem was written by a young girl stricken with terminal cancer and a limited extension to her life. the words are beautiful, the message strong. what jars me the most is how relevant it is to my life right now, as if the words are written for my eyes. this came as one of those chain-letter mail and being the cynic that i have always been, i take the story with an ounce of salt. however, the thruth in the story is irrelevant here, perhaps most important is the gentle reminder for me to slow down.

this year has been most troublesome for me, as some of you know. i have lost something very dear and irreplaceable, something that i never knew mean so much to me, something that i never appreciated before it was gone. the regret. the sadness. the frustration. the anger. the hopelessness. a multitude of feelings that i have never had to experience. you will never be able to truly grasp my feeling unless you have gone through it personally.

without knowing, the scarring experience has subconsciously pushed me to live everyday harder; to play harder, to work harder and to live life a little harder. deep down there is this nagging feeling that i may be skimming over life, but it is so hard to resist this natural tendency. it's hard to slow down once the wagon has started.

i am guilty of all the things she said. i cannot remember the countless times i've told my kids 'we'll do it tomorrow', only to forget about it. running through next day's schedule just as i am retiring for the night seems like second nature to me now and the last time i remember sitting idly watching kids play was more than a decade back. i always seem to be rushing through today's event in anticipation of tomorrow's.

let this be my wake-up alarm for today.

let this remind me to slow down and enjoy life as it pass.

13 comments:

Las montaƱas said...

The only way to slow down, is to reduce overpopulation.

Can you slow down in a big city? or you do it better in a small town

Anonymous said...

Dei, you just went for 2 holidays overseas. Lidat somemore not enough enjoy ah?

Anonymous said...

slow down, but only to a pace you're comfortable with. sometimes, even the good things pass by too quickly, they need to be grasped right there and then!

Anonymous said...

Well the truth is there is never enought time to do everything we want and life is too short for regrets.

I think you can only do so much. To try to do everything requires great sacrifices. Better to handle things as they come and let bygones be bygones.

Anonymous said...

*hugs*

it's weird. y we'll NEVER appreciate or realise what truly matters in life until it's gone. loved ones & health.

Unknown said...

Me, thank you for sharing this poem and your thoughts on it. Time is short. I don't think slowing down means doing anything slowly.

My feeling is "slowing down" means not rushing for that "one thing" that would "make me happy". Instead, take time off from the pursuit of that "one thing" to do the "other things" that add colour to life.

LM, i think you can slow down in the big city as well as the small town. As long as your "passion" has more than one definition. ;-)

Annie said...

*slapping ME upside the head* Thanks fellow MOM for reminding me to feel GUILTY!

From one mother to another - I say we decide today that we're going to pat ourselves on the back for doing an AMAZING job of keeping our children from killing themselves.

That we choose to raise these kids instead of auctioning them off on eBay.

That we choose to wake up every morning, when you KNOW we really just want to sleep ALL DAY LONG and pretend responsibilities don't exist.

I say WE must learn to take care of ourselves first and we'll be able to take care of others.

Hugs to you ME. I know what you're going through.

me said...

dear monty: i think it's the other way round. you can't ever hurry up in a small town. where would you hurry to, why would you want to hurry to. to more boredom? kakaka. at least in a big city, there is always places to hide, like the library, the park....it's just a matter of choice.

dear ah pek: don't liddat lah. u see me good, i see you good, i'm sure you know this lah. it's not a matter of not enjoying but more of a problem with how i'm living my everyday life (the normal, not holiday one lah, ah pek)i eat, also must multi-task. i see tv, also must multi-task. i must plan for few days in advance. i'm not concentrating on 1 thing n enjoying it fully. like that can go to grave very early one, you know.

dear may: you are right. sheesh! it's so hard to balance

dear jonzz: but i'm greedy. eventhough you know that you can't handle everything, yet you need to. you just can't let anything be sacrificed. that's the biggest problem of a virgo. but you're right. i'm learning. i'm learning. *breathe in, breathe out*

dear sooi2: *sob* so true. but i really wish i had *knocking head on wall*

dear bernard: hmmm...it's something that i haven't been able to do. when i read a book i like, i must finish it as soon as possible, forsaking everything and everybody around. it's a character that i don't like too much too but once i put it down, it gets cold and i don't feel like picking it up again. maybe for this new year, it should be my resolution.

dear annie: kakakaka. thank goodness i have annie in my life to make me laugh at myself and how silly i sometimes am.

Anonymous said...

Priorities priorities.... All the best with striking a balance yeah...

Wuching said...

yes, live everyday like its ur last! :)

titoki said...

The poem is very touching.

Unknown said...

dear me: that's the meaning of "driven". It's not a character flaw. Some people, especially "successful" ones (in the conventional sense of the word), just have that in them.

me said...

dear ian: unfortunately all the things rank no. 1 in my list of priorities leh. :-( i'm very greedy.

dear wuching: i've heard of ppl say that but i think i won't truly be able to do it unless i have a close brush with death.

dear titoki: i tot so too. hang in there, dearie. take care of yourself.

dear bernard: some patients in mental institute have them too. hahahaha!